A lack of first hand or positive experience with your asshole may leave you uninterested or even turned off from this potent part of your body. There is a lot of stigma associated with this part of us. You might think its dirty or painful. For so many, fear and disgust are common associations with the anus.

What would it be like if you had free and uninhibited permission to explore your asshole? What if it weren't this hidden part of ourselves? There is a good chance you might not have such negative associations with it.

Our first practice with the asshole will be about building relationship. Saying hello to your butt.

First, take some time to get relaxed and clean. A good place to start anal play is in a hot bath or shower. Take your time to let your muscles relax as you wash your body all over. As you wash, see that each stroke is slow and intentional. Gently stroke over your asshole, giving it a little extra attention. Pause if you become bored or tense and move to another part of your body. You can always return.

When you are done, find yourself a mirror. Depending on your flexibility, you'll want either a handheld or full length mirror. Take a look at your anus. Find a position you can easily maintain - not just a quick peak, but if you were really going to examine yourself. Take a look at your buttocks and when you are ready, spread them apart to take a deeper look. What do you see? What feelings do you notice? Acknowledge all your feelings.

Then, move to a position where you can easily touch your asshole. Use a little water based lube or coconut oil to gently feel the tissues around your anus. Do not go inside just yet, even if you have before. Touch with curiosity, not trying to get anywhere or do anything. Perhaps touch as if you were touching a flower. As you touch, notice what the tissues of your asshole do. Breathe deeply, notice what the tissues do. Notice if there is any pleasure. Welcome any feelings or thoughts.

Reflection:

Do you have any judgement or criticism of your own asshole?

Do you have any appreciation for your own asshole?

Notice how you feel after exploring - how does touching/being with your asshole affect the rest of your body?

*If this practice peaked your curiosity, for your next pleasure practice, try Anal Pleasures #2

Some positions for self-exploration of your Asshole