You may or may not have watched or listened to porn to get off. It can be a quick, efficient way to release and feel good. And it can also be a bit consuming, at times taking over our attention.

This is an invitation to watch porn in a way that helps you effectively notice the sensations in your body as you watch - not disassociate from them. You might also try this as a new way to masturbate and learn more about your likes, preferences, and desires.

The foundation of this practice is simple: stand and move while you self-pleasure. You might raise your device to eye-level and as you watch, simply try moving your body along. Start with simple movements, not locking your knees, and maybe even mimicking actions you see on the screen.

Another part of this practice involves taking your attention away from the viewing and focusing on your body for 5 breaths. You can pause the porn or look away. Notice what parts of your body feel pleasure, what parts feel numb, what parts feel the most pleasure. Then return to viewing. Try moving between noticing your body and noticing the porn as much as it pleases you.

Here are some porn recommendations:

https://pinkwhite.biz/ - Shine Louise Houston's production company - very queer, very diverse, creator of the "crash pad series"

https://erikalust.com/ - femme run porn company - more hetero/cis

https://troublefilms.com/ - Courtney Trouble's queer porn production company

Sites like pornhub, redtube, and youporn have lots of free content but you'll need to verify your age - just takes a minute. These sites will have a lot more mainstream content but you can find specific fetishes or scenes.

kink.com - big hub for kinky/BDSM videos. They are now all behind a pay wall I believe.

https://xconfessions.com/ - crowd sourced porn hub

https://pornzog.com/ - lots of searchable free content of all kinds

Reflection:

You might notice shame or other feelings come up when even considering watching porn. Notice what feelings come up when considering this exercise. And if you choose to do it, notice what comes up when you browse porn. What porn are you drawn to? What porn was unattractive?

What did you learn about your likes, preferences, and desires?