Ever touch yourself without any expectation for arousal or pleasure?

Often when we receive professional massage they skip over our genitals - leaving a big gap in a very important part of our physiology. Even when a loved one offers us a massage, it can either include or not include the genitals, and if it does, it likely means sex or arousal is in the works. The only other times we receive genital touch that is not sexual is when we go to the doctor/OBGYN.

What would it be like to touch yourself with no expectation of arousal, pleasure, or sex? Simply massaging your genitals like you would any other tissue, muscle, and bone in your body.

Tips:

• Start with a genital 'hug' - cupping your hands over your gennies and allowing for a few breaths and time to connect.
• Use lube or oil to help your hands glide easily around and in.
• If you are not already aroused, stick to internal surfaces.
• Touch with curiosity. Try different strokes, speeds, pressures.
• Continue to check in with the rest of your body to see that you are relaxed, breathing, and present.
• Allow for pausing to check in with what is happening.

Reflections:

What do you notice about this way of touching?

How did your genitals like to be touched?