The word heavy often gets a bad rap as we prioritize lightness in our culture. We also can associate heaviness with the negative, when in fact, giving over to the heavy - energetic or physical - can be a huge relief.

This is an invitation to play with your physical or energetic relationship to heaviness.

There are several ways to engage:

+ With your body: Take some breaths and identify the parts of you that feel heavy - earthy, grounded, weighted. Allow yourself to pour your attention and weight into those parts. What is it like to move with the heavy? Be still with the heavy? Where is there pleasure? Where is there joy?

+With objects: You can find something heavy and interesting to you. Some examples: wooden yoga blocks, a weighted blanket, a bag of rice, a heavy pillow, a book bag full of books. Allow the object to influence you. Place it in on different parts of your body: your chest, your belly, your butt, your feet...see what is it like to move or not to move. What is it like to give over to the heaviness of the object?

+With toys: Using weighted insertables or dildos can be a really nice pleasure enhancer. They can add a grounding element to sex. They are especially good if you are someone who experiences numbness or gets lost in their head instead of feeling. You can use them in your mouth, genitals or butt. I personally love a crystal or steel wand. Chakrubs makes great crystal dildos and NJOY makes great steels ones. You can also put these in the freezer for added sensation play.

Crystal Dildos

The NJOY Classic

Me playing with a weighted blanket